“Sexual Integrity is expressing the gift of sexuality throughout life in a true, excellent, honest and pure way.”
Understanding sexual integrity involves using our minds. Really knowing how to live out sexual integrity takes time, education and experience. No matter what our IQ, we all have the God-given ability to become mature and wise. It’s really about learning to become thinking people. It involves a lifelong journey of learning about how we perceive ourselves, how others perceive us, how our bodies are designed, and how we can have healthy relationships. It also involves making the most of our minds and becoming all we can be. There are many people that can help us on the path to knowledge, but ultimately, learning, growing and even healing is our own responsibility. We must choose to improve ourselves, even if we don’t get support from our families, boyfriends or husbands.
Living a life of sexual integrity encourages us to fill our minds and thoughts with things that will improve us. What we see has an impact on our behavior, so we can choose not to watch media with sexual content that will tempt us. Instead, we can use our minds to achieve our goals in life and say “NO” to men who want to use us. We’re smarter than that. When our intellects are sharp, we are more interesting and more engaging as women. We attract smarter men and, in turn, they respect our ideas, thoughts and opinions. Best of all, we can look forward to the fact that the men we will ultimately marry will fall in love with us as much for our minds as our beauty!
(Excerpted from Heartbeat International booklet, “Sexual Integrity” / Copyright 2002)